Sometimes I feel like I live in a cave. Seriously. I do. I try to keep up with the times, but I fail miserably. Case in point: I typed in a web address a few weeks ago, and instead of getting the website I wanted, I ended up at a porn site. Hey, I am ok with that. A typo is a typo, and I am a grown woman, I don't object to porn. I am not a fan of it, but heck, that's me. It was the pop up ad that got to me. It was an ad for an adult sex website! I am like what? Hello? Swingers? What? Have sex tonight? Excuse me?! I, of course, had to investigate, so I clicked on the ad. I would have to admit, my curiosity got the best of me, and since I could not check out the site without becoming a member, I joined for free.
First, it asked me to create a "handle." So, I was CuriousWife with a few numbers behind it. Then, I had to fill in a profile. I figured, heck, I've gotten this far, what's the big deal, right? Well, not quite. One has to answer all sorts of personal questions, like what I am looking for (e.g., Men for Discreet Relationship, Erotic Chat or Email or Other "Alternative" Activities). There is an assortment of activities to chose, from Exhibitionism/Voyeurism, Group sex, Misc. Fetishes, Cross-Dressing to more hardcore, like Bondage & Discipline, Sadism & Masochism, scat, water play (urine). Well, you get the picture. So, I finished my profile, which also included my height, weight, color of eyes, hair, bra size, etc., and I wrote a short introduction about myself. Then, I started reading profiles. I wish I hadn't. The more I read, the angrier I became! That freaking website is full of married men looking for "discreet" sexual encounters, "f**k buddies," "friends with benefits," and some of those husbands are looking for bicurious encounters! How dangerous is that?! No wonder new STD and HIV cases have increased over the last few years. HELLO!
I was only able to read 10 profiles that night because, as a free member, that was the allotment. Every single profile I read by married men was the same song and song: Lonely husband, living in a sexless marriage, looking for discreet encounters. Grrrr. These men are not lonely or living in a sexless marriage (well, maybe some are), but when you have a husband looking for bicurious encounters, TS/TV/TG, cross-dressing, Sadism & Masochism, etc., I am thinking, maybe he is simply bored with vanilla at home. :/ I don't care how sexual a wife is...she is simply not able to provide bisexual sex, or TS/TV/TG activity! Why are these men married?! They are simply endangering the lives of their wives, and for what reason, to fulfill some sick, perverted, sexual fantasy?
Ladies, wake up! This site has over 20 million members. Do you know what your husband is doing while he is silently in his home office on the computer at all hours of the day or night? I suggest that you go through your husband's credit cards, cash accounts, extra activities outside the home, like "boys night out." Get savvy, and learn how to navigate through his computer, checkout the history, favorites, downloads, does he have a cam (website camera). Does he "need" a cam? (Lots of men on the site like to cam and masturbate live for their viewers, not to mention the explicit photos these men post as their profile pictures...lots of penis pictures!) Go on line and check his credit (it's free!), and see if he has any credit card accounts that are active that you may not be aware of. Go through his wallet, his car, his pockets, his text messages, his cell phone log. There is a way find out who a suspicious number belongs to without having to dial the number directly; it's called Sly Dial. Just dial 267-SlyDial (267-759-3425), and after hearing a short ad recording, the service will prompt you to dial the person's number, and it takes you straight to their voice mail. Of course, I did all of the above, and my husband has been completely "cleared"; at least, for now. I know this is not a way to live, not trusting one's husband, but after what I've read, it's better to live not trusting him, than with HIV or an STD (like HPV) that can cause you your life!